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My attempt to gather objective evidence,pay attention to statistics, and conduct relevant experiments in my own life

What’s the Status Quo on Cheating?

29 Sunday Jul 2018

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Audrey Hepburn and Mel Ferrer on the set of War and Peace, by Milton Greene, 1955

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For whatever reason, we don’t talk about cheating. We don’t know where everybody stands on the topic or what their experience with it is. It’s often a shameful experience for both the cheater and the cheated on, so maybe we cautiously avoid it out of a concern for other peoples’ feelings. When I respectfully disregarded that respectful distance, I found out that broaching the topic is welcomed and oftentimes needed.

 

Asking seven fairly simple questions about peoples’ experience with and views on cheating, I entered into conversations that lasted anywhere from 3 to 45 minutes (transcribing was a beast!). Everyone I approached was willing to partake in the survey, and most were curious about my findings. ‘What did other people say?’ was a common question I received when mine were finished.

Below is a summary of what I found, meant to be reflective of the 54 responses I received. Each participant was generous in sharing their views on such a personal subject, and they warrant more space than I can give in one article. Thank you to all who shared your experiences with me.

The participants were 30 males and 24 females of various adult ages. The interviews were done on the street, at coffee shops, in bars, on trains, in FedEx lines and anywhere else I found myself in conversation with people willing to chat. Participants were from 6 different countries and interviewed in a few different states and countries.

As you read the responses to these questions, I challenge you to think about what your answers are for these questions. It’s not all as simple as you might think. So, deep breath! Here we go. Continue reading →

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We’re Not Going to Take It Anymore!

06 Friday Jan 2017

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Women March Against Nixon: 1972

Saturday is our time to shine! Let’s take part in the most historically American thing to do: taking charge of our own lives

Prepare to raise your fists in the air because I’m Not Going To Take It Anymore Day is coming up this Saturday, January the 7th.  This has got to be the best holiday we are forgetting to celebrate, and it could not have better timing. As Americans, Twisted Sister’s, “We’re not going to take it” might as well be our national anthem, because protest and revolt is as American as apple pie.*  Whether it’s speaking out in a crowded public forum, speaking up in your relationship, or even just shutting down those harmful voices in your own mind, Saturday is your chance to use your voice and your actions in the most impactful ways possible. Continue reading →

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Ring Me Up! Studying The Relationship Between Guys, Girls, and Phones

18 Sunday Nov 2012

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If it’s worth your while
Say somethin’ good to me, baby
-Mariah Carey (Say Somethin’)

Have you ever hated yourself for staring at the phone? Your whole life waiting on a ring to prove you’re not alone.
-Pink (Glitter In The Air)

A common one-sided quandary is running through several of my friends’ relationships lately: what’s going on with our phone communication?  Whether it’s a new love or a long-term committed relationship,  it seems like there’s a fine line between being a nag and a caring girlfriend, and even the most confident women can feel unsure or desperate when trying to maneuver around it.  There’s a distinct difference in the needs and wants of girls and guys on each side of the relationship in regards to chatting from a distance. 10 guys and 10 girls in all sorts of different relationships shared their points of view on the subject, and some pretty common patterns underlie their answers. Continue reading →

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Special Report: When It Feels Like He’s Feeding You Lines

27 Friday Jul 2012

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The Look

Easy on the cat calls, sir. Flattery won’t take you too far with her.

One big misconception guys have about girls is that we thrive on flattery, and an assumption common among girls is that guys compliment us primarily to butter us up.  The truth is, however, that both parties are misreading each other to some degree.

After receiving a compliment I felt a guy gave because he felt he was obligated to, I investigated the ways and the reasons that guys give the girls they’re pursuing compliments. I asked 10 men of varying ages and relationship statuses about their complimenting tendencies, and I questioned 10 women to assess their take on receiving compliments.  All in all, we’ve come up with some pretty basic and helpful guidelines for giving and taking compliments and for pinpointing empty flattery.  Continue reading →

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So Long, Sir

29 Sunday Apr 2012

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We need to talk…

My preferred method of telling a boy I’m not interested in him has traditionally been not telling him. I always thought the best way of turning someone down was to kind of sneak out of sight and let him figure out that I wasn’t into him.  From the 4th grade when I hid in the tube slide to dodge a boy who wanted me to be his girlfriend, up until now when I walk outta my apartment and turn around to walk right back inside to avoid a run in with my overly friendly neighbor, I always dreaded confronting someone with the fact that I didn’t want him back. It’s awful to me. That awkwardness of saying “I don’t really see you that way” or “You’re a great guy, but…” And the look in his eye.  And the awkward walk away. I feel like a tool, and I can’t see him feeling great about things either. As it turns out, the reason I’ve felt like that when I’m ending it with guys is that I am kind of being a tool. Continue reading →

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Why You’re Not Picked: Apple vs. Lottery Analogy

09 Monday Apr 2012

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We may not all get the birds and the bees lesson, we may not all get the stand up for your rights speech, but one talk I can assure you every girl has heard at least once in her life is the top of the tree apple story.  It always comes after the heartbreak of an unrequited crush. Continue reading →

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Meet Cute: What Meeting Stories Mean To Us

08 Thursday Mar 2012

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In The Artist, a chance encounter leads to a lifetime love affair. How much do we wish for the same kind of destiny to take hold of us in real life?

Story time! My first real boyfriend and I met in the bleachers at a football game that our home team was losing terribly.  The seats were clearing out quickly, but we were both the stubborn type who believed in staying the whole time to support our team. I noticed his friends because they were all loudly bad mouthing our team, and I was really against them all for it.  It wasn’t long before he turned on the charm and set himself apart from them.  He later said he noticed me in front of him and saw an opportunity to meet me when he noticed my soccer jacket because he played soccer too.  He asked me if I played for the school, and he was in. We hit it off and talked the whole rest of the game.  At the end of that game, our team had lost by probably four touchdowns, but I walked out happy because I had met an awesome guy. Continue reading →

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Pouty Pucker: Field Test Results of Kissing with Lip Plumping Gloss

11 Saturday Feb 2012

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Buxom Big and Healthy Lip Polish in Trixie and Krystal. Click on picture for link.

It’s almost time for Valentine’s Day, and we need to properly prepare for all that smootching. A pretty cool tool for the trade is lip plumping gloss.  There are a few different brands out there, but I tried Buxom Big and Healthy Lip Polish.  Because of some spices, it makes your lips tingle and increases circulation to the area, dilating blood vessels and thereby increasing the fullness of your pout.  Results are truly noticeable, and the effects can last 30 minutes. It is also moisturizing and is available in a variety of different tints.

I enlisted some girls to help test the product’s kissing performance on their men.  The unsuspecting guys all noticed a difference in the kiss. Continue reading →

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Rom Com Reality: How Sappy Movies Influence Us All

07 Saturday Jan 2012

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Boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy fights to get girl back, and then, against all odds, they live happily ever after.  The classic framework for romantic comedies is so simple, yet it tugs at our hearts every time.  Why is it that this particular genre, which has become a mainstay in modern-day storytelling, is so enticing?  When people watch these movies, they believe them.  With no special effects, no tricky camera play, and no elaborate plot line, audiences are swept away and fully invested in the fantasy that romantic comedies’ predictable story lines sell time and time again. Continue reading →

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Date Rates: Why Men Should Pick Up The Tab

15 Tuesday Nov 2011

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Some say chivalry is dead, some say it is outdated, but as it turns out, it is merely misunderstood.  With so many mixed signals from society about gender roles and responsibilities, reaching for the check at the end of the date has become progressively more awkward.   I set out to see what expectations exist and to objectively determine a standard for today’s dating world.  20 men and women of ages 25-35 weighed in to give their thoughts on who pays for dinner.  The results are overwhelmingly in favor of men paying, and there are many reasons women can feel quite comfortable with letting them. Continue reading →

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